WHat is underneath the fear?
Discovering my authentic self has not been easy. It has required untangling the programming and stories I've been told throughout my life—the unresolved fears, taboos, and secrets of our ancestors, along with messages like "you mustn't do that" and "you'll never amount to anything." Even more challenging are the fears and disappointments we absorb from those around us; they permeate every corner of our society.
Oh, what a challenging journey it has been to allow myself to be seen and heard for who I am in this moment.
It's no surprise that fearmongering and control are deeply rooted in our culture. This isn't the fault of the everyday population; it's a pattern passed down to us by those who believe they run the show. However, we have a choice about whether to continue this narrative. I choose not to. I choose to feed the light, reconnect with myself, explore my true essence, and seek joy and laughter along the way.
We can look at all the noise, social media, and propaganda as a wake-up call we need. It is a call to action, encouraging us to become agents of change. We should take time to nurture our inner sovereignty, reflect on where we have given away our power, and, in this moment, assert our personal preferences to make the most of our lives. By tending to ourselves, we change the narrative, nourish the good, and bring balance to the darkness that is now being exposed.
The mind and body are interconnected. The body stores our experiences, and authenticity is the highest vibrational emotion. However, from an early age, we are taught to suppress our feelings and needs. We are conditioned to believe that anger is toxic—often dismissed as "just that time of the month, you know"—or that we are "too sensitive" or "too much."
We have been labelled as self-centred or "self-important" when we prioritise our own needs. Society teaches us that we can (and should) "have it all." Additionally, we forget that our natural cycles involve ebbing and flowing. We aren't meant to emulate men; instead, we need more rest, the ability to soften, and greater sensitivity to stress, among other things. As a result, many of us suppress our voices, needs, and emotions, neatly packaging them away (often with a bow, of course, because we're Good Girls).
Repressing our emotions can lead to inflammation. Like many others, I experience pain and inflammation in my body, but I would rather not create any more suffering. I've learned to connect with my body and listen to what it tells me, rather than resisting it. Instead of focusing on the 'non-stop radio station of fear', I'm working on making peace with myself and accepting whatever unfolds.
When we suppress the screams that don't have a chance to be heard or the tears that won't flow, we put extra pressure on our liver, where anger is stored. This can make us more susceptible to hormone health issues, menstrual cycle problems, and other forms of dis-ease. Imagine the positive change that could occur if we lived in a society that values women and our differences—a society where we have safe spaces to share, vocalise, and express our emotions with love, compassion, and without judgment or labels.
Imagine a society which supported women and actively helped them to thrive by providing safe spaces, resources, and understanding. And one which made us feel SAFE enough to express our feelings and emotions. To live with authenticity and prioritise our own needs. THIS is what we need. It's what the world needs.
Now is the time for leaders and influential figures to lead by example by openly expressing their emotions and sharing personal experiences. This can help normalise emotional expression and inspire others to do the same, creating a ripple effect for societal change. Sharing my musings and feelings can be difficult, and I sometimes doubt myself afterwards. Still, in my heart, the world needs us to be radically honest with ourselves and with each other, however vulnerable we feel, and regardless of how we think others might perceive us. This is where change happens, one conversation at a time.
Now is the time to reclaim all parts of ourselves, especially those that have become quiet amidst the noise or the parts we have exiled through shame. Who's with me in creating safe, inclusive spaces that can accommodate our fear, grief, and anger?
Let's come together and make this a reality. Ultimately, reclaiming our lost parts is an act of self-love. It's a commitment to honour our needs and feelings, leading us toward a more joyful, resilient, and empowered existence. By doing this, we not only transform our own lives but also contribute to a more accepting and supportive society for all of us.
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Big huge love, Kim x
