APRIL FOOLS

We awoke to the many pranks delivered by our 9 year old son which included cling film, moving most of our furniture out of the kitchen, a wheelchair with a mannequin sitting aboard with a carrot around its neck….don’t ask!

After all this frivolity and welcoming a client for a healing the rest of the day quickly descended into utter chaos due to the fact River made a monumental decision to move back into his bedroom after spending the best part of his 9 years Co-sleeping with me (big gulp and deep breath for me!)

Now all his bedroom furniture moved, toys in situ and hoover back in the cupboard I sit down with a Great Dane by my side and reflect on the origins of this thing called ‘April Fools’ day which I felt swept through our home today.

People would celebrate Loki around this time of year in order to celebrate the idea of new beginnings and change and to honour the necessity and growth that is achieved through change.

Loki was known to be a trickster God and a shapeshifter. At times he would work alongside the other Gods and Goddesses and other times he would rebel. It was anyone’s guess as to the type of mischief or support Loki would bring.

Loki was not a very trustworthy God, but most necessary for change. Loki was believed to be the God that brought the chaos before a big change or new beginning.

Change is a positive thing, and the havoc and shenanigans brought before the change was believed to be the doing of Loki.

While there is no hard and fast proof that April Fool’s Day is the celebration of Loki, the energy of all of this sure seems to make sense.

Equinox is a time of new beginnings, and I know some of the community here have been feeling this sense of chaos, if you have been feeling like the Universe has been playing a joke on you over the last few weeks, perhaps take a moment to honor Loki and the winds of change.

We offer a space to gather with likeminded folks, a place just for you to come as you are and explore why you feel the way you do and be deeply listened to without judgement.

Messge me to reserve your space on the next round of 'Where Women Gather' Cacao and Fire Ceremonies' starting this July.

2023

July 3rd

August 1st 

August 28th

September 29th

October 28th

Or gather a few friends and experience a bespoke cermony designed just for you.

Email Kim for further information ~

ellaafield@icloud.com

INTENTIONS AND OFFERINGS

"The readiness is all."

William Shakespeare

Like an arrow flying towards a target, setting an intention activates not only your innate healing capacity but also shows your commitment to meeting spirit halfway.

You choose to heal.

By stating your intention out loud, the invisible realms hear your call.

As Joseph Campbell perfectly said ~

"Follow your bliss, and doors will open for where you would not have thought there were going to be doors and where there wouldn’t be a door for anybody else. There is something about the integrity of a life and the world moves in and helps."

Secondly, forge a deeper connection to nature and the elements of fire, water, air, and earth. This can be done by giving offerings as a way of showing our respect and gratitude, a simple way of saying hello… They are a way for us to build and maintain a relationship with the gods, spirits, and ancestors.

Just as when we arrive at a friend's house for dinner, we may bring a small gift and wait to be welcomed into their house, so it is true when we walk through a forest ~ we don’t barge through, stomping all over the place, without first knocking at the door and asking to come in!

As we walk through the forest, we start to recognise the deep symbiotic relationship we have with our Mother Earth. We then naturally wish to care for the planet, and, in doing so, we learn also to care for ourselves.

If you are seeking to forge deeper relationships and meaning to it all, I would love to share what I've gathered across thirty years of traversing the mountains and the valleys of our emotional range.

Let your body and nature lead you back to the truth of who you are, let your actions serve your souls purpose once more.

I always happy to book in a chat to enable you to feel if Ellasfield is the right place for you ~ ellasfield@icloud.com

CACAO WITH LOVE

It took a health crisis for my relationship with myself and sugar to change.

I would like to share a little back story on how I was led to start offering Cacao and Shamanic Healing Wisdom Ceremonies in a yurt surrounded by horses in the West Sussex countryside.

Growing up, we would always have something sweet to complete the ritual of our TV dinner, anything from suet pudding and custard or, when money was tight, tinned fruit in sugary juice washed down with evaporated milk.

A habit was forming… a craving for something sweet after every meal became firmly embedded, a notion that sweet food was a source of comfort and reward for eating everything on the plate.

It wasn’t long before I was spending all my pocket money on sweet treats before walking to school, providing me with an unconscious sense of support in my school bag, and assisting me in enduring the endless and agonising days at school.

As I traversed childhood and pocket money increased, so did the weight of sugar purchased in that little shop at the top of my road… large boxes of Smarties and even larger bars of milk chocolate became a source of artificial comfort and set up a drug-like effect in the reward centre of my brain.

Unwittingly, I had learnt that substances could be used to distract or self-medicate, bring me up, bring me down, knock me out, pep me up and so on.

I had grown up in a culture where a quick fix or external validation had become the norm, whether it be a momentary sugary boost, scrolling the internet, chasing that promotion, a better relationship or material acquisition, enjoying a few glasses as a reward at the end of a long day or rolling up a note and inhaling my way out of that dopamine dip.

I have grown up in an era of relinquishing power to patriarchal systems and structures that are designed to manufacture good workers with the fantastic byproduct of becoming excellent consumers that seek the ‘thing’ that will bring lasting satisfaction and the promise that one day you will wake up and all your dreams have come true.

Walt Disney, you have a lot to answer for, but that’s another story! Let’s keep on track….

I am amazed at the coping mechanisms we adopt, how we two-legged folk find ingenious ways to manage strong emotions and muffle out deep-rooted suffering.

When I look back at my younger self, I have great love and affection for her. She found marvellous coping mechanisms that enabled me to hide the fact I felt damaged and defective, and that it was all my fault and for the ability to portray the image of a strong woman who had it all together.

This act carried me into my 30s but by then my body had started to scream at me to stop punishing myself, stop pushing, stop hating, stop striving and start taking care instead.

I had reached a tipping point and my health had started to suffer the consequences. By checking myself into a detox clinic in a desperate attempt to alleviate the symptoms that the doctors and health professionals couldn’t and by taking along a little book called ‘True Love’ by Thich Nhat Hanh, I had unwittingly embarked on a new way of living with myself, one called Self Love.

Self Love. Yes, I know it could sound excessive and possibly a little egocentric in a culture that doesn’t revere this concept and at worst makes us feel guilty for even thinking about it.

Quite frankly it can feel hard to navigate. What does it mean? What is enough? What is too much? What does it feel like? What does it look like? How do I bring it into my life?

No wonder so many of us can’t imagine embarking on such an endeavour or knowing where to start.

Firstly, I had to start small to make it work for me. It had to fit into my day without feeling pressured or a chore, but I did need to meet myself halfway and carve out a little time on my yoga mat, even if it was just for a few minutes.

Having always had a sense of detachment from myself, cut off from my body as if it was something quite separate from me, this new and emerging relationship with myself threw up all sorts of emotions.

I resisted (hugely!), cried, shook, laughed, and ached but most importantly I started to reconnect with my home, my body. I began to care about myself!

Then something quite strange took place… I started to look forward to sacred time with myself, becoming in touch with what movement felt good and what didn’t. I started to cultivate agency over my body rather than feeling swept away by life or the illusion that awful things just happen to me.

I started to enjoy the sensations of movement for movement’s sake with no goal or end game. I arrived at the realisation that movement practices don’t have to be punishing or extreme to provide a significant reward.

I was now entering a new phase, one in which I could start dealing with the intense emotions long suppressed and as a product of this finally be able to bid farewell to the substances that had supported this facade for too long.

A new way of living with myself had begun and love of gentle yoga was born, a crucial part in the jigsaw puzzle of my way back to purpose, passion and chocolate!

More importantly, my relationship with all things chocolatey and sweet changed. It no longer served as a crutch or band-aid. As my relationship with myself flourished so too did a new love… no, not my new husband but cacao!

Cacao ceremonies have been held for thousands of years to heal the mind, body and spirit. Depending on the dosage and where you are at, each time you drink you can gain more insight into the power of this beautiful plant.

From the energised to tender, you are able to release, heal, and gain new perspectives in all areas of life, which starts the process of self-love that ripples out into all areas of life.

For me, this included my relationship with foods including all the sweet ‘reward’ foods, alcohol, shopping, and the list goes on… and on!

This is one part of my life's jigsaw puzzle, bringing me back to a stronger sense of my true self with a new purpose and passion in sharing this beautiful sacred plant medicine.

Did you know you can come together with loved ones for a private cacao ceremony?

There is a new way to celebrate special events in your life and mark significant birthdays ~ one where experience and heart connection with your loved ones supersedes the superficial and material gift that holds no real meaning or lasting impression.

When you give your loved one a bespoke cacao ceremony with an overnight stay at Ellasfield, you will share an extraordinary experience that will bring alive the senses as you gather in the candlelit yurt, connecting you to your heart with the soothing plant medicine of cacao that brings balance and a sense of peace.

In these times of fast-paced living, this is a real chance to step out of the chaos into a magical place where time stands still.

Honouring a particular life event with family or friends with cacao opens the heart, lifts the mood and enhances creativity and connection. It is the perfect conduit for an alternative way to celebrate or honour a moment.

After a phone chat, I can design ceremonies, especially for you just for you and your guests.

When to hold ceremony

Couples Ceremonies

Birthing New Projects

Coming of Age

Intention Setting and Letting Go Of Outdated Patterns or Behaviours

Hen and Wedding Celebrations

Family and Friend Unions, Birthdays and Memorials

Each is created and orchestrated for the current moment. No ceremony is ever the same and I work with an ancient medicine wheel in these lands. Your personally created ceremony experience is a magical weaving of many elements.

‘When we work with nature’s rhythms, we bring ourselves into alignment: simultaneously finding strength and openness.’

Working with cacao is a way to allow people to quieten their minds and sink into their hearts; to connect to their authentic power, creativity and connection to all. When we begin operating from our hearts, the shifts can be huge.

I create ceremonial circles for people to connect to their hearts and strengthen the unity of being human, release pain and limitations and rediscover their inner passion, compassion, wisdom and clarity.

Each ceremony is themed differently, relating to the seasons and collective energies and connects us to working with the ancient medicine wheel of these lands.

There is a reason people all over the world love chocolate and it isn’t just the taste. But chocolate doesn’t touch the sides of the experience you can embody when working ceremonial grade cacao, which is heightened within the ceremony.

My solid intention is to deliver all offerings from a place of heart and assist clients on their own path, bringing balance and healing using only heirloom ceremonial cacao paste ethically sourced through workers' co-operative of small family farmers to chemical-free organic standards.

Birthday or Special Event Cacao Ceremony

plus Overnight Stay

Day One

3 PM Arrivals ~

Robin Shepherds Hut with Private Wood-Fired Hot Tub

Homemade Birthday Cake or Brownies with Berries

Private Use Of Spa Facilities ~

Sauna

Cold Water Swimming Pond

Swim Spa

Cacao Ceremony

Pizza Supper

Private Wood Fired Hot Tub

Day Two

Home Cooked Breakfast

Choose From ~

Mindfulness Session

Guided walking meditation, The Halo Method is a connection to Mother Earth like no other ~ one which quickly releases negative thoughts and emotions technique.

or

Shamanic Healing Wisdom Journey

Staying close to mother earth, it’s time to relax and let the beat of the drum carry you to meet with your animal spirit guide, reconnect with your intuitive senses, creativity and joy ~ the truth of who you are.

or

Two Hours Use Of Spa Facilities

Price ~

£233 per person based on two people sharing the

Robin Shepherds Hut

10% discount 5-8 people per private party

*This offer is available Sunday to Thursday

Extras ~

Shamanic Healing

Working at the point of the trauma or root of the wound. The process is for individuals who are ready to undertake and address their wounds, release past stories and step into their power. This process works to clear attachments and the blockages that prevent us from living with ease, power and grace.

£120 2/3 hours

1:1 Yoga and Meditation

A delicious mix of slower-paced blend of sacred, heartfelt yoga infused with many elements to reconnect you with your own inner guidance and a sense of peace and personal power

£60 1 hour

Massage Treatments

£45 (bookings for 3 or more guests)