sit with a healed heart
Life can sometimes throw us heavy challenges, and it's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed. These moments can either push us down, or there may be a turning point, and we decide to confront our fears and self-sabotaging thoughts head-on. It takes great strength to acknowledge our struggles, and in doing so, we can begin to reclaim our power and find a way through the darkness. Remember, you're not alone.
The internet is now overflowing with courses, information, and retreats, making it difficult to discern which spaces are trustworthy and which sources of support are genuinely valuable. It's essential to approach these options with discernment to find the guidance that genuinely resonates with you.
From the very beginning, I had to seek support and guidance from someone who had lived a challenging life and had applied what they taught to their own experiences, rather than from someone who could take course after course without applying any of it to their own experiences. I can sniff out inauthenticity from a mile away; it's one of the side effects of trauma, but it's actually useful when it comes to being discerning about who can help you.
Upon finding my first teacher and mentor, Jeanne, I began to nurture a secure base within myself, allowing my true nature to be observed without fear of judgment. What she offered me was the most magical of medicine. She had carried out her own internal work to regulate her nervous system. She provided a neutral yet compassionate space, which gave me the container to start trusting others and, in turn, learn to trust myself.
We don't need excessive information or confusion; what we truly need are safe spaces where we can feel secure and where our bodies can recognise a healed, balanced heart. These environments allow us to begin sharing our distress. In these spaces, the facilitator's emotional regulation can be 'mirrored' in us, soothing our nervous systems and helping us achieve emotional regulation. This process is known as 'emotional contagion' or 'limbic resonance.
Jeanne was able to acknowledge my pain without being overwhelmed or attempting to "fix" me; she provided a stable emotional anchor that allowed me to show up and share my darkest feelings honestly and find my own answers and my own way to healing.
We all have an innate desire to seek relationships where we can be seen and heard—where our true selves aren't shunned or ridiculed. We long for connections that allow us to breathe easily without hiding parts of ourselves. How many of us can genuinely say we experience that?
As facilitators, we must create spaces that foster a sense of safety and connection, which are essential for relational healing. In this supportive environment, where you feel valued and understood in your pain, you are encouraged to be honest with yourself and confront your sore wounds.
In essence, what we truly need today is to find quiet places where a healed heart awaits, rather than being overwhelmed by more information, distraction and razamataz. Where a healed awaits, your body will experience a resonant presence that facilitates self-healing in others by modelling emotional balance, offering unconditional acceptance, and providing a safe space for vulnerability and a homecoming to the parts of you that got lost in the noise of life.
You are so welcome here.
Big love, Kim x
