sit with a healed heart
Many of us accumulate a significant amount of trauma, and it’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed by it. When the events we experience in life become too much to bear, especially when they persist over the years, we carry that weight within us. This includes the energy from tears we couldn't express, the screams we wanted to let out but were too afraid to vocalise, the loneliness we didn't fully allow ourselves to feel, and the emotions we repressed or stifled to survive.
Acknowledging that we need a little help and wishing for things to improve takes real strength and care. Sometimes, our mind tries to protect us from reliving past hurts, and our nervous system can become overly stimulated, keeping us in a state of survival and making it hard to engage in meaningful life fully. This was certainly true in my situation.
The internet is now overflowing with courses, information, and retreats, making it difficult to discern which spaces are trustworthy and which sources of support are genuinely valuable. It's essential to approach these options with discernment to find the guidance that genuinely resonates with you.
In my personal experience, when I decided that all the unresolved trauma was limiting my life, I had to seek help. From the very beginning, I needed to find someone who had lived a challenging life and had applied what they taught to their own experiences, rather than someone who could take course after course without applying any of it. I can sniff out inauthenticity from a mile away; it can often be one of the side effects of trauma, but it's actually useful when it comes to being discerning about who can help you.
Upon finding my first teacher and mentor, Jeanne, I began to nurture a secure base within myself, allowing my true nature to be revealed without fear of judgment. What she offered me was the most magical of medicine. She had carried out her own internal work to regulate her nervous system. She provided a neutral yet compassionate space, which gave me the container to start trusting others and, in turn, learn to trust myself.
We don't need excessive information or confusion; what we truly need are safe spaces where we can feel secure and where our bodies can recognise a healed, balanced heart. These environments allow us to begin sharing our distress. In these spaces, the facilitator's emotional regulation can be 'mirrored' in us, soothing our nervous systems and helping us achieve emotional regulation. This process is known as 'emotional contagion' or 'limbic resonance.
Jeanne was able to acknowledge my pain without being overwhelmed or attempting to "fix" me; she provided a stable emotional anchor that allowed me to show up and share my darkest feelings honestly and find my own answers and my own way to healing.
We all have an innate desire to seek relationships where we can be seen and heard—where our true selves aren't shunned or ridiculed. We long for connections that allow us to breathe easily without hiding parts of ourselves. How many of us can genuinely say we experience that?
As a facilitator with 20 years of experience in nurturing my own emotional well-being, I create spaces that promote safety and connection—essential elements for relational healing. In this supportive environment, you will feel valued and understood in your suffering. Ellasfield is the space where you can be honest with yourself and finally start to hear your inner voice and its wisdom.
In essence, what we truly need today is to find quiet places where a healed heart awaits, rather than being overwhelmed by more information, distraction and razamataz. At Ellasfield your body will feel a harmonious presence that promotes self-healing. This presence models emotional balance, offers unconditional acceptance, and creates a safe space for vulnerability. It allows you to reconnect with the parts of yourself that have been lost in the noise of life.
You are so welcome here.
Big love, Kim x
